When God’s Plan Hurts – Trusting God After a Breakup

I didn’t expect to be writing this.
Not this kind of post. Not with this kind of ache.

I sincerely put my whole heart into this relationship. I went all in. And that’s something really vulnerable to do after all the messy relationships I’ve had in my 39 years of life.

I truly believed God had sent him.. the man I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with, the man I prayed for. He wasn’t just someone I loved deeply; he was someone who brought out parts of me I hadn’t seen in years. He challenged me, supported me, prayed with me, and made me feel seen. And when something that beautiful ends, it’s easy to question everything… including God’s plan.

But here’s what I’ve come to realize:

God did send him. Just not for forever.

Some people are sent to shift the ground we walk on. To teach us something. To remind us of who we are and whose we are. To help us heal pieces of our past we didn’t even know were still tender. He served a deep purpose in my life, and for that, I will always be grateful. He holds a special place in my heart, and I believe he always will.

But now God is leading me somewhere else.

And I have a choice.

I can fight it.. cling to what was and try to rewrite God’s story with my own pen. Or I can surrender. I can trust that the God who authored my joy in that season is also the God who is guiding me into the next one.

I’ve chosen to trust Him.

Even when it hurts.
Even when it doesn’t make sense.
Even when I still long for the thing I had to let go.

Because God has good plans for me. Plans to prosper me, not to harm me. Plans to give me hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). And I don’t want to miss what’s ahead by staying stuck in what’s behind.

Heartbreak is not the end of the story.
It’s a chapter. A hard one, yes.. but one God can use.

If you’re walking through your own heartbreak right now, I want you to know that God sees your pain. He collects every tear (Psalm 56:8). He draws near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). He is not absent in your loss. He is closest in it.

Bible Verses for the Broken Hearted

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” – Psalm 147:3

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18

“Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning.” – Psalm 30:5

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him…” – Romans 8:28

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5–6

Let those words wrap around your heart like a blanket.
You are not alone. You are not forgotten. And this pain is not pointless.

There’s purpose in the heartbreak.
There’s beauty on the other side.
And there is always hope in Him.

Let’s walk this out together – day by day, tear by tear, verse by verse – choosing to trust that God is still writing something good.

Because He is.
Even here.
Especially here.

A Prayer for Letting Go with Love
Lord, today would have been our anniversary — to honor a relationship full of laughter, connection, hope, and dreams shared. But instead of celebrating together, I stand in this quiet space of letting go. I bring You my aching heart, my lingering love, and the dreams that now rest in Your hands.

Thank You for allowing me to love, and to be loved, even if only for a season. I release what was, not with bitterness, but with gratitude for the good moments and with grace for the ones that hurt. I pray for peace—for him, for me, and for whatever is next. Heal the places in me that still reach for him. Fill them with Your presence. I trust that You are not finished writing my story. In Your time, make beauty from this brokenness. Amen.

I am not standing at the end – I am standing at a turning point. This love, though no longer growing in the way I hoped, planted seeds in me: compassion, patience, deeper faith. It showed me what I’m capable of feeling and giving. That’s not something to mourn forever. It’s something to honor.

You still have love to give. You still are love. And you are not alone. God is so close to the brokenhearted, and He is holding you as you walk through this.